My dad
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
Still surreal really, he was fit as a fiddle only a few days ago
Woke up crying this morning but got out of bed early even though I was tired because my brain would be in overdrive
Kept busy with personal stuff I needed to catch up on, family stuff and also we had the funeral arrangements to get done which alone took a couple of hours.
I’ve taken his dog in.
Went got a photo printed and bought a frame for displaying in the church. Just busy really
Apart from the funeral I won’t be boozing with family, I’m sure you all recall the “Jeremy Kyle situation” thread from only a few weeks ago where my brother tried to evict my dad or make him take in lodgers... that whole situation hasn’t gone away for me, in fact my brother has got his wish now..
Apart from standing up for my Dad in that argument I hadn’t spoke my 2 of my brothers in 18 months, they got right jealous when I got myself the job in Shetland. Never a single text to see how I was or how my wife was back home on her own.
That hasn’t gone away for me either.
I told my sister I’ll be civil with them for this week but when it’s over I’m finished with them.
tomorrow we are going to see him in the funeral home, Monday I’ll go buy a suit and we have his reposal in the funeral home in the evening and Tuesday is the funeral.
I’ll have a few drinks at home tonight as usual
Apart from my sisters family and maybe my younger brothers family in small doses but the other 2 can fuck off now
Woke up crying this morning but got out of bed early even though I was tired because my brain would be in overdrive
Kept busy with personal stuff I needed to catch up on, family stuff and also we had the funeral arrangements to get done which alone took a couple of hours.
I’ve taken his dog in.
Went got a photo printed and bought a frame for displaying in the church. Just busy really
Apart from the funeral I won’t be boozing with family, I’m sure you all recall the “Jeremy Kyle situation” thread from only a few weeks ago where my brother tried to evict my dad or make him take in lodgers... that whole situation hasn’t gone away for me, in fact my brother has got his wish now..
Apart from standing up for my Dad in that argument I hadn’t spoke my 2 of my brothers in 18 months, they got right jealous when I got myself the job in Shetland. Never a single text to see how I was or how my wife was back home on her own.
That hasn’t gone away for me either.
I told my sister I’ll be civil with them for this week but when it’s over I’m finished with them.
tomorrow we are going to see him in the funeral home, Monday I’ll go buy a suit and we have his reposal in the funeral home in the evening and Tuesday is the funeral.
I’ll have a few drinks at home tonight as usual
Apart from my sisters family and maybe my younger brothers family in small doses but the other 2 can fuck off now
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 48015
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 3:23 am
- Location: My life is dope and I do dope sht.
- Contact:
Re: My dad
I don't know how your brothers can look at themselves now.
I have to say you have had the toughest of tough times over the last five years or so.
A few pictures of the dog?
I have to say you have had the toughest of tough times over the last five years or so.
A few pictures of the dog?
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
They’ve only themselves left to bully now, fuck them
Re: My dad
Think about your brothers later, they are not worth your headspace at this point. Your wife, sister, son and yourself and friends and loved ones of your dad, that's where your attention deserves to be imho for what it's worth.
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
Yeah I’ll be civil and get through the next few days but then it’ll be a return to how things were last week.
Even in the last few days I’ve withdrawn myself from being with them too much or conversing or getting friendly, maybe my sister did and if she wants to reconcile that’s up to her.
I’ll put up with it for my dad but when the point comes when I no longer need to put up with it I’ll bow out quietly. Kicking up would play into their hands and that’s the last thing I want to do
Even in the last few days I’ve withdrawn myself from being with them too much or conversing or getting friendly, maybe my sister did and if she wants to reconcile that’s up to her.
I’ll put up with it for my dad but when the point comes when I no longer need to put up with it I’ll bow out quietly. Kicking up would play into their hands and that’s the last thing I want to do
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
Lazy bitch is in for shock
Handy life as an old mans best friend is over, long walks and hair straightening and bows and ribbons from now on
My wife’s words
Re: My dad
I'm not going to lie, I think it's awesome you've taken her on, she will be as heartbroken as everyone else in her way.
Re: My dad
[quote="Damie Karras"]
Lazy bitch is in for shock
Handy life as an old mans best friend is over, long walks and hair straightening and bows and ribbons from now on
My wife’s words [/quo
Lazy bitch is in for shock
Handy life as an old mans best friend is over, long walks and hair straightening and bows and ribbons from now on
My wife’s words [/quo
- Le Cut Inside Mane
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 9710
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 12:45 am
Re: My dad
Dogs are fucking amazing tbf, they really help getting through rough times.
I'm fighting the council as my neighbour has reported me for having dogs
I'm fighting the council as my neighbour has reported me for having dogs
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
I’ll tell you all now lads, the more this goes on... the more I talk to people, the more I have to spend time with “them” ....
I am FUMING
I am FUMING
- Macho Man Randy Savage
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 14355
- Joined: Wed Jul 21, 2010 6:33 pm
Re: My dad
Sorry about your old man Dub
That dog though what's his/her name?
That dog though what's his/her name?
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
Susie
I’ve gotten myself into some state here tbh
Blood is boiling how I’m going to keep it together I don’t know. The thoughts of spending 2 hours tonight at his reposal in the same room as my brothers and watching their false grief and listen to people sympathizing with them. Things like people saying “he only bought a new car” and knowing that he only spent the money on it so my brother couldn’t get it.
Then there’ll be the sorting out of his things. He wasn’t tidy by any means so going through his stuff and finding what’s important and what should be binned will be a chore. But essentially it’d be tidying out the house for my brother to move someone else in.
We’ve already found in his pocket a bank receipt for my brothers account for the higher rate of rent he was demanding, that’s where he was when this all happened.
The funeral tomorrow I can deal with, I’ll just stay as far away as I can.
I’ve gotten myself into some state here tbh
Blood is boiling how I’m going to keep it together I don’t know. The thoughts of spending 2 hours tonight at his reposal in the same room as my brothers and watching their false grief and listen to people sympathizing with them. Things like people saying “he only bought a new car” and knowing that he only spent the money on it so my brother couldn’t get it.
Then there’ll be the sorting out of his things. He wasn’t tidy by any means so going through his stuff and finding what’s important and what should be binned will be a chore. But essentially it’d be tidying out the house for my brother to move someone else in.
We’ve already found in his pocket a bank receipt for my brothers account for the higher rate of rent he was demanding, that’s where he was when this all happened.
The funeral tomorrow I can deal with, I’ll just stay as far away as I can.
- Macho Man Randy Savage
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 14355
- Joined: Wed Jul 21, 2010 6:33 pm
Re: My dad
At least in Ireland you get the funeral out of the way sharpish, just continue to the be the better/bigger man and you'll feel better for it mate in the long run.
Re: My dad
What Mark said ^.
This country is so fucking abhorrent to its elderly and departed. Waiting two weeks to crem8 a loved one ffs
This country is so fucking abhorrent to its elderly and departed. Waiting two weeks to crem8 a loved one ffs
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 48015
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 3:23 am
- Location: My life is dope and I do dope sht.
- Contact:
Re: My dad
I've had to wait longer than that. If you pop your clogs around Christmas time, it takes ages.
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
Well the reposal is over
Told my sister how I felt and agreed not to say anything until it was all over
Told my sister how I felt and agreed not to say anything until it was all over
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 48015
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 3:23 am
- Location: My life is dope and I do dope sht.
- Contact:
Re: My dad
Probably for the best, but I don't know how people can behave like that.
Re: My dad
What does your sister think?
-
- Posting Freak
- Posts: 27330
- Joined: Wed Jul 14, 2010 4:16 am
Re: My dad
I don’t know really
Seems happy to reconcile but also agrees what went on is out of order
Fuck it when tomorrow is over I’ll wash my hands of the lot
Seems happy to reconcile but also agrees what went on is out of order
Fuck it when tomorrow is over I’ll wash my hands of the lot
Re: My dad
Best to keep the powder dry tomorrow for the sake of your Dads memory.
Who is online
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 69 guests